LC: Why would I still be nervous? LC: Oh, happy ones. PR: Care to elaborate? Well, it's seven o'clock and I want to rock and get a belly full of beer. LC: Hey! Blog Facebook Twitter Instagram Pinterest View all 51 comments. Apr 05, Aj the Ravenous Reader rated it really liked it Shelves: lol , physically-owned-books , young-adult , reread , love-love-love , easy-read.
The things that bothered me the first time I read it were no longer an issue to me. I have completely forgotten about Mason though. The beckoning gesture, I still vividly remember though. This is why rereading is the best. So I guess my old review still holds true except that this time, I liked it even more. Of course, I read it in one sitting. Despite the odd morbid elements as mentioned in the intro, view spoiler [ there actually was a cheesy mud fight scene at the grave, lol!
Just like On the Fence , this has short chapters, enjoyable characters, cozy beach town setting and a fun, witty, sarcastic heroine and a too beautiful hero. Personally though, I still prefer On the Fence just a tad more. I guess I was hoping it was that but never mind. But in so many occasions, I felt like the premise is yelling at me way too much. Alexander on the other hand is unrealistically soooooo rich at least to me. He has a personal plane, a music studio, more than three sports cars, is about to inherit 50 hotels, I mean GAH!!!!
Rub it in much??? I just had to let it out. I liked the little conflicts in the almost linear but in a pleasant way kind of plot and I like how these conflicts were resolved. I also like the atmosphere of friendship and family that prevailed in the story and I definitely like the smooth flow of events and of course, the happy ending. So, are you suffering from a terrible disease called book slump or just looking for a light, enjoyable read? I SO recommend this. Pretty in Pink meets Pride and Prejudice. That's the best explanation of this book I've seen so far. Kasie West has done it again I thought I was a fan of her writing after I read Pivot Point.
After reading The Distance Between Us I may have escalated to fangirl. This book made me all kinds of happy. First reason I love love it. Caymen Meyers lives with her single mother and learned early on that the rich are very different than her. Working the register at her mother's dol Pretty in Pink meets Pride and Prejudice. Working the register at her mother's doll shop, she's encountered her fair share of them and her mom hasn't exactly been secretive about her feelings toward them. Then Xander Spence enters the store.
He's tall, gorgeous and obviously rich. From the first 'beckon' the evolution of their friendship hooked me. I'm not going to tell as much about the story itself because I'm afraid I might give something important away From the first chapter, West had me hooked. I want Caymen as a best friend. I think that we would hit it off. Her sarcasm and dry humor made her completely likable and relatable. I just think of you as the guy who brings it to me. Sometimes I forget your name and call you hot chocolate guy.
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She has one friend in her life and almost all her time is spent working in the shop. She shoulders so much for a 17 year old, that it's hard not to feel a bit of anger towards her mother. The boy made my top five swoony boy list. I don't know what exactly it was about him I don't know, but he totally won me over. He can have the first sip of ALL my drinks I'm totally okay with this. Now the two of them together had me smiling like a fool. Watching them get to know each other and learn about each other and fall for each other was the best part of this book for me. Xander opens the compartment above my knees and takes out a pair of leather gloves.
As he pulls them on I can't help but laugh. Xander is convinced that they have the same problem going on in their lives Of course everything isn't easy and their circumstances seem to make things complicated but not in the way you might think, and she quickly learns that his family isn't made up of the horrible people that she's been led to believe. Along the way, Caymen finds out that some of the things she's been led to believe aren't exactly true and her world is turned upside down. If you're looking for a sweet contemporary with some wonderfully developed characters then you must pick up The Distance Between Us when it comes out in July!
I know I'll be buying a copy for my bookshelf. Xander is mine!! View all 5 comments. Jun 16, Frankie Lovely rated it liked it. This book was not the most horrific thing I have ever read … so there is that. I honestly enjoyed it … to an extent. This was my second attempt at a Kasie West book and I have to say … I was mildly disappointed yet again. It was cute … I guess. So all in all I count that as a moderate win. I enjoyed Xander's character a lot The MC couldn't have been more clear in her disdain for rich people if she tried … like seriously! This concept was literally the ONLY strife between these two!
I really did not like Caymen I didn't hate her She seems like she might be an okay human The romance seemed ones sided because of this. Xander was all in from the moment he decided "this is the girl" but like What building blocks were in place to make him feel this way?
I can see why Caymen would like him I just need more foundation!! I could have done with a little less rich shaming and been happy. In Conclusion Not terrible.. Enjoyable but nothing to light a torch over. I am going to give West another try because I did enjoy thing one more than my first West read. View all 22 comments. Jul 07, emma rated it did not like it Shelves: ya , library , contemporary , nope , 1-star , reviewed , unpopular-opinion. This book is just straight-up really bad. Like, you know how there are sometimes movies that are just objectively not good?
It is fun to watch that type of movie and be like wow, look how bad this is! This little number comes pretty close to that. But it is very very very bad and also This book is just straight-up really bad. But it is very very very bad and also dumb. How normal humans talk. I have no explanation for this. Not even Cayman. Sounds like the girl deserves to be cheated on! She hypothetically might not be as funny as you in your own imagination? A monster!
Every time a girl pops up in a contemporary only to become the immediate BFF of our protagonist it reminds me of a Justin Bieber fanfiction from in which the love interest becomes best friends with Demi Lovato and Selena Gomez seconds after encountering them. Good times. Very bad writing. Caymen sucks and is mean and boring and annoying and stupid and Xander is the most spoiled weird annoying dumb rich kid of all time so they so totally deserve each other.
And this book is bad. Bottom line: the last thing I expected was for this book to be evidence of Kasie West improving over the years, but here we are. View 1 comment. Shelves: kick-butt-female , book-boyfriend , contemporary , royalty-celebrities-or-rich-people , romance , fluff , rec-d-to-me.
Guess who's my new book boyfriend! I bet you can't guess correctly. Just kidding! It's Xander. Of course it's Xander! Who else could it possibly be? The boy is simply beyond wonderful! This was a beautiful book about a beautiful budding relationship between two beautiful people! Ale Xander and Caymen. I literally finished this in one sitting. I wasn't intending on finishing, but I literally could not stop. I couldn't tear my eyes away from the page! Xander is who I want. I want a guy exactly like Xander!
Why can I not find a guy like Xander? It seems like in all these book worlds there are high populations of Xanders. Why can't my world by populated by Xanders? Instead, my crappy world is populated by asshole Roberts and too touchy Masons. WHY is there no perfect balance? Why are there like zero chivalrous guys in my world?
I would happily jump into a book world any day. There needs to be like a goblin black market of authors who can literally bring these wonderful book men into real life. I would sell my soul for a Dimitri or a Xander. Scientists: get on this, stat!!!! Caymen is so awesome!!! I can't even! A lot of times, I'll love a chick lit because the guy is so wonderful, but in this one not only did Xander have my heart, but Caymen did as well.
Her sarcasm is through the roof hilarious! She's my new model. But no way. Caymen holds that title by a landslide. There is absolutely no competition. Like the Cayman Islands. Is that your mom's favorite place to visit or something? I have an older brother named Paris and an older sister named Sydney. The top glistens with sprinkled sugar. Are you uncomfortable yet?
I liked her mom, but she was maybe my least favorite of the characters I liked. This is my third and so far favorite Kasie West book. Why is she so magical? Also porcelain dolls are creepy no matter how beautiful they are. View all 17 comments. Apr 03, Maureen rated it really liked it. It's so predictable and so convenient but also so adorable and so addicting and just amazing? I loved it so much!!! Xander is bae!!!!! Also so respectful!!!! I love everything. I HAD to read this book in one day. HAD TO. View 2 comments. May 21, C. Drews rated it really liked it Shelves: contemporary , 4-star , read , young-adult.
I feel connected on a spiritual level. It's like this book is mine. I am Caymen. Minus, you know, the creepy doll shop and the freakishly sweet boyfriend. Go me. We really need to talk about this book. For starters: I loved it. I don't even usually like fluffy contemporaries, but I loved this one a lot. It was disappointing on so so many levels. The good, the bad, and the ugly. But all you really need to know is: you need this sarcastically adorable book in your life ASAP. For starters, it's the best strain of sarcasm.
It's very self-deprecating or based on surroundings. Caymen doesn't take the mickey out of anyone. She doesn't act "woe is me". She's so quick! And the humour is written wonderfully. The author doesn't pause to "explain" when Caymen's being sarcastic So this?! I laughed out loud so so much. He's sweet, she's snarky. Like what more could I possibly want?! It's definitely a slow-burn romance. They become friends first , which is what I love to read.
And they change and grow throughout the story. It's vivid, but not drowningly so. It adds in plenty of details, there's delicious food, and plenty of settings. And it deals with the themes of "what should I do with my life" which is HUGE when you're facing the end of highschool. I got all the feels and all the fuzzies and I totally didn't want to put this book down. Which really bugs me because I was going to rate this 5-stars and then Shush and read. No, and no. I'm not an "unhappy ending" lover, but I do like a shred of realism. The book seems to bypass anything and everything awkward a to arrive at a cosy snuggle.
I feel absolutely cheated. For instance, view spoiler [there was such potential for a messy love-triangle since Caymen was leading Mason on while being zero percent interested in him. But that sort of just shrugged away and Mason faded when Caymen finally decided she did, indeed, like Xander.
And, well, let's bring in the estranged grandparents to clean up the debts and sort everything up! There wasn't even a shred of awkwardness, they just meshed the grandparents in like they'd lost their daughter But there's no shred of past animosity now. Oh no.
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But I can't understand why they lived so close! If you want to ditch your parents, don't you run to the other side of the country? Or at least state?!! Don't get me wrong: I love the grandparents. I just felt it was so unrealistic. It was rush rush rush and that startled me and left a sour taste in my mouth. I wanted blueberry muffins and hot chocolate, yes, but I wanted to chew not gulp. I think it kind of faceplanted towards the end. This bit is basically a spoiler, so view spoiler [ I felt it was incredibly unfair that Caymen could follow her dreams, but Xander couldn't.
He was "good at" being in charge of hotels, so therefore that was his calling?! No way! You can be good at things and not be passionate about them. I was so so frustrated that this was the climax! Why shouldn't Xander discover something new??? Naturally he didn't find something else he loved. This stinks a bit. I surprise myself, since I'm so twitchy toward contemporaries. There were definitely a bunch of things that spoiled the ending I ship Xander and Caymen quite furiously.
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Okay so I liked the book to an extent. From my experience of romance book 3 stars This is a book I never thought I would read in my life, because it is totally out of my genre. From my experience of romance books before which include 4 books in total, I think this was a solid one. It was not as dramatic as I expected it to be. Okay so the main character is Camen and she is very complex as a character because I don't know for sure if I like her or not.
She has this very great sarcasm, similar to mine, but during most of the book she did some stuff that I didn't enjoy at all. Okay I will give a brief opinion for the other characters: Alexander - smart, very funny and good at talking The mom - hated her Sean the grandfather I am not sure if it is spelled like this, because I listened to the audiobook - my favorite Skye - very random Henry - meh This book really shows the impact that the parent have on raising the children. So parents, please raise you children to not judge. Nov 28, Marnie rated it really liked it. Everyone, it's official.
I am in love with Kasie West's writing. This is probably one of the cutest contemporary books I've read all year. The story revolves around a girl named Caymen. Caymen doesn't exactly come from the richest of families, so she does all that she can to help her mother out, which includes working Let's just say, this isn't Caymen's passion in life Everyone, it's official.
Let's just say, this isn't Caymen's passion in life, rather than her mothers. Anyway, one day Caymen is working her usual shift, and an obnoxiously rich boy enters the store. He beckons her over for help in the rudest way possible, which only confirms Caymen's suspicion of obnoxious rich kid. This is where it all begins His eyes are so intense I want to look away From the start, it was clear Caymen was going to fall head-over-heels for Xander. Although she doesn't have the greatest first impression of him, it's clear after their first meeting date?
I was going to say Xander could beckon me over any day, but I will refrain myself from saying something so outrageous! Seriously though, Caymen was a complete sucker for Xander! It's not as if he did much wrong, but c'mon, the man could murder someone and she'd still fall for his hard-to-come-by smile. This book is literally full of sarcasm, AKA, my forte. Caymen's dry humour honestly keeps the story alive. Without it, this book would be just another cheese-fest. And I mean cheese-fest. Now, I'm a sucker for all things love, but even this was just too much. Towards the end of the book, I did feel like Xander's wealth was mentioned on every other page!
We get it He's a good person whilst simultaneously being insanely rich. We now know not to judge books by their covers. Although I liked the ending, I did feel like it was completely rushed. I felt like we hardly saw Caymen and Xander as a couple, if you know what I mean? I definitely did not get enough closure, and would love a second book. Or even novella. Also, maybe reading from Xander's perspective would be kind of cool.
I mean, I do want to know if that asshole Robert really was calling Caymen a stray. He was the worst. This book had the perfect amount of banter, honestly. I feel like Caymen's sarcasm eventually reached Xander, and although he was the serious one at times, he began to gain his own sense of dry humour. Not to mention the fact that he fully appreciated Caymen's sense of humour!
Where can I find myself a man like that! Is that your mom's favourite place to visit or something? Seriously, what a unique way to bring a little bit of originality to the story! One of my favourite parts of the story, was Xander and Caymen's ritual with the hot chocolate. For some strange reason, I found it so insanely adorable that Xander taking a sip out of Caymen's drink became their habit.
Their thing, if you will. Overall, this book was just the cutest, and I hope to find someone that loves me the way that Xander loves Caymen. Or vice versa, because seriously, this is a couple that love each other with all they've got. View all 4 comments. Really enjoyed reading this one. Literally took me less than 6hours to finish the book. Loved the writing style, characters, plot, and the ending the ending was my favorite part. Caymen, she was priceless, absolutely loved her wit and personality. Xander, I was really really drawn to him from the get go, he was unique and like a breath of fresh air honestly.
Skye, was bubbly, happy and perfect, plus the best friend ever to Caymen. Apr 08, Ellis rated it liked it Shelves: let-s-have-beautiful-cover-babies , disappointing-execution , sexy-times , must-read-before-dating-me , anticipaaaation , own-physical-copy , boss-heroine , genre-contemporary , dj-play-this-girl-a-love-song , fluff-fest. The verdict: 3.
Because I remain professional at all times, I should say that I'm docking a quarter star because I struggled a bit with the beginning and an entire star because I had a whole set of problems with the end. However, the official reason is and will always be: Eeeerrrhh It's just I can't I'm legitimately concerned about this. There's a reason it's called "warme chocolademelk" hot chocolate milk in Dutch.
As a virtual ambassador for the land of chocolate, I f The verdict: 3. As a virtual ambassador for the land of chocolate, I feel it is my duty to rectify this situation, because this is just WRONG. How to make delicious hot chocolate : For cup s 1. Ingredients - ml milk - 1 spoon of cocoa powder or a few pieces of dark chocolate if you're really hardcore 2. Preparation - Pour the milk in a steel pan. Students and other laid-back people: it's acceptable to just put the cup in the microwave.
It doesn't take away from the taste. However, water does. This is tricky, but you'll quickly get the hang of it. So that was the semi-original part of my review. For the rest, I think I have remarks very similar to those other reviewers who really liked this book made.
I am one of those people who says: "I read books for the characters. I generally struggle with this genre. Maybe I'm just an escapist reader. I need the high stakes of fantasy and the imagination of a world completely foreign to ours. Caymen is pure brilliance. I often felt for her and she made me laugh almost every time she opened her mouth or, you know, took a step or a breath or something. Overall, I'm really impressed with the female characters in this book. Skye is a wonderful best friend, which is something I so often miss in the genres I just declared to be my favourites.
From the few non-NA contemporaries I have read so far, female friendships have been handled very well, which makes me very, very happy. I find this important. The two characters I'm really conflicted about are Caymen's mother, Susan, and the love interest, Xander. I'll get to Susan in a bit, because her character ties in with the major problem I have with this book besided the chocolate milk debacle, of course , which is the unsatisfactory resolution to the class issues.
So, Xander. This guy just didn't do it for me. Their chemistry was definitely there and their conversations and banter were laughs and feels and giggles and snorts all wrapped in one big ball of OMG I'm so happy for you, Caymen! However, the thing that irked me about Xander is that he's so entitled and clueless about his privilege. I don't like that he had to be the richest of the rich, especially with how things played out with Caymen's family.
What was even the point of all that if you're going that route anyway? Yes, Xander genuinely cares for Caymen, but in interactions with her friends, it's apparent that he doesn't really understand not everyone has a trust fund and multiple cars. It felt lacking. It also made me uncomfortable that he was immediately interested in Caymen. Their early meet-ups seemed a bit stalkery to me. I find it odd when a boy who doesn't go to the same school as you - and probably doesn't even live in the neighbourhood - goes out of his way to bring you your pre-sipped coco every morning, even though their small tradition was quite cute.
What I will say in Xander's defence is that he was fully realised as a character. He was not merely a love interest, but a real, albeit spoiled, person in his own right. As I already mentioned, the class divide is also where Susan comes in. I just remembered: Susan Meyers? That's a Desperate Housewives name right there! Oh, Kasie West, you sly minx. I honestly have to question this: which young, single mother my calculations say she was around eighteen when she got pregnant starts a doll shop when she has to provide for a young child?
It doesn't seem all that practical and self-sufficient to me. I know there are collectors out there, who will pay a lot of money for eccentric trinkets, but it doesn't seem plausible to me that they survived on this income. On the other hand, I appreciated the details West included in her portrayal of a poor family. In the beginning, Caymen and her mother are eating and there is no mention of meat.
I liked this touch. For one, meat is expensive and secondly, the fact that Caymen doesn't even go "No meat, because we are poor. I thought it was wonderful that West didn't make her protagonist a spoiled brat who just hates on being poor. Caymen has stamina and she works for what she wants. On a side note, I'm also very glad that she has a strong interest in science. While science never really gripped me the way literature did, it's good that not all these YA heroines are poetry addicts or aspiring artists.
Let's keep it that way. So, the ending was not good for me. The reveal about her grandparents was a cop-out and I never felt that the class issues were adequately addressed. The beginning was promising on that front and the first half of the book almost made me cry because Caymen really struggles with the class divide. Feels, feels, feels. I love you, Caymen!
I was expecting heartbreaking events with a touch of drama and some angst sprinkled on top, but that particular storyline never delivered, in my opinion. I feel horrible for hating on a HEA, because Caymen gets all the fuzzy endings she wants from me. Just personally, I would have loved some more ambiguity.
Give her a couple good things, but not the whole shebang. That doesn't come across as authentic to me. Then again, I hail from the land of pessimists we like to think of ourselves as realists, but honestly, who are we kidding exactly? I will definitely reread it and see if I can make myself be more at peace with the way things turned out I doubt it though. It has made me curious to explore more of the genre, so if anyone has any recs, they are welcome here! Most of all, it has made me extremely excited for West's Pivot Point series and just for her as a novelist in general.
Good stuff. View all 52 comments. Jun 09, Anja H. I already read The Fill-In Boyfriend before and I thought that that was going to be my favorite Kasie West book, but boy was I wrong because I clearly hadn't read this one yet! I'm such a sucker for cute romance novels these days! The type where you don't have to think too hard, just the sit-back-and-enjoy-the-ride kind of stories. This one is a perfect example!
It might be a bit predictable but it's just so adorable mixed with just the right amount of humor, I couldn't help but love it. This book deals with a lot of issues like poverty, health struggles, what to do with your future, family drama.. But not in an extremely heavy way and that's also part of what I liked so much about it. What I didn't like about this is actually the same as what I liked about it, if that even makes sense. I feel like nothing really happened the whole time, except for "girl meets boy", "girl falls in love with boy" and "girl figures things out".
I would've liked this even more if there was a bit more excitement and more interesting stuff happening. Also, the ending felt a bit rushed and came really sudden, there were a lot of things still left in the dark, I still had so many questions! I like to read books like this in between heavier reads or long series though so I'm still giving it 4. It made me happy and relaxed and that's exactly what I wanted : Overall, this was a really cute and very quick read. I'll definitely read more Kasie West in the future! Buddy read with Maymay , who also recommended this! I was having a crisis over my slump which has been going on for a week and a half now and then May recommended I try out this one and she reread it with me!
I think it did! It was also super funny since our MC, Caymen is a pro when it comes to sarcasm and I just loved it. I connected with her on a spiritual level. He's the most precious thing in the entire world. He's so adorable and sweet and please, I need my own Xander, okay thank you and goodbye. I love Kasie's writing. So light and easy to fly through. And really addictive. Also, the ending was so incredibly rushed. Do you get my conflict?? Caymen and Xander's relationship, Caymen's family problems, Caymen's own issues The woman was creative in her cruelty.
More book recommendations by me at www. Sep 04, Diane rated it liked it Shelves: own-already , goodreads-group-read , nonfiction , bought-in , fresh-air , met-the-author. What could be more scary or powerful to a child than a weeping woman who roams the canal and steals children away in Mexico, known as "La Llorona"? Thus opens the prologue in this deeply personal, often heartbreaking, memoir of Reyna Grande and her siblings as they wait for their parents to keep their promise and return to Mexico for them.
The story is a journey of Reyna and her What could be more scary or powerful to a child than a weeping woman who roams the canal and steals children away in Mexico, known as "La Llorona"? The story is a journey of Reyna and her siblings' life from childhood to adulthood. There were intense obstacles of poverty, alcoholism, desertion; people illegally crossing the border from Mexico to the U.
I tip my hat to Reyna Grande for so boldly opening her heart and life to the world. I admire and respect her for all that she has accomplished. And I couldn't be happier for her. One last addition, this is the most perfectly titled book I have ever come across. The Distance Between Us: A Memoir is referenced so many times and ways in this book, I would love to know from Reyna which came first - the story or the title?
Had I read it before meeting her, I would have asked her! Jan 07, Melissa rated it it was amazing. I will admit that I probably wouldn't have thought to pick this book up if my book club had not chosen it. I just never knew about it until now. I'm so glad I got the opportunity to read it, as it was really well-written and interesting throughout. Reyna takes us through her childhood and teenage years while living in Mexico and then later in Los Angeles. She doesn't have it easy and I can't even imagine having to deal with some of the circumstances that she did.
Her experiences shape her and as I will admit that I probably wouldn't have thought to pick this book up if my book club had not chosen it. Her experiences shape her and as she takes us through her life, it feels like she's someone I could easily become friends with.
After all, she reads V. Aside from that, she seems like a genuinely good person who cares about the people in her life, even when they don't always demonstrate that they care about her too. Her journey gives a new insight to what it is like for people who are trying to immigrate to America to build a better life for themselves. Perhaps some people nowadays would benefit from reading or listening to this book. I listened to the audio version which was really compelling, even though Reyna didn't personally narrate it. I look forward to discussing The Distance Between Us with my book club.
Although some parts are hard to read trigger warning: physical abuse , I would definitely recommend it. View 2 comments. Aug 09, Liz Waters rated it it was amazing. Award-winning novelist Reyna Grande's new memoir, "The Distance Between Us" is a book that has given me an eye-opening understanding of the plight of many immigrants from Mexico. Trapped in poverty in their native land, moving into the United States by any means is a way to better one's life and the lives of one's children.
With the legal situation in the U. This situation can only be worse now than it was for Reyna when she made the crossing. What I had not considered before, however, is the damage done to the family structure when economics force families to split up to earn enough to survive, and to reinvent themselves again and again in order to make a successful life in a new land. For a culture that values family ties as much as the Mexican people, this division is tragic.
The very fabric that has defined a culture for centuries lies in tatters as people work for a better life. The barrier of language is huge, and I wish every person I have ever heard complain about Spanish being spoken in the U. Crossing that language barrier is awfully hard for adults, less so for children, but a barrier nonetheless. I have only admiration for those who speak more than one language. The courage required to make a journey like Reyna and her family is huge, and she has brought it to light with simple, lyrical prose. Her determination is truly admirable and this book will provide inspiration to every person coping with adversity to be overcome for success.
One hopes too that, because of Reyna's story, every reader to look with a kinder eye to the Latino community in the United States. Aug 08, Erin rated it really liked it Shelves: , read-non-fiction , netgalley. This was a heartbreaking story of the toll of immigration on a family. Novelist Reyna Grande's memoir documents the steady disintegration of her family over decades as one by one members of her family leave and return, leave and return to "el Otro Lado," the United States. The first separation takes place before the start of the book; Reyna is so young when her father leaves for the US that she knows him only by his photo, and thinks of him as "the man behind the glass.
That is the distance between them. That makes my heart ache just thinking about that, both as a mother and a daughter. But the title takes on more significance throughout the book, as you see the distance between the family members growing, even as they are reunited in the same country. It's certainly not light reading, but I think a story like this is important to understanding the larger issues of immigration, and the human side of it.
We are talking about real people, just like you and me, and that is too often forgotten in the debate. Dec 28, Sonja Arlow rated it liked it Shelves: memoirs-bio-s , recommended , read , audio-books. I think the issue of illegal immigration has always and will always stay a contentious issue and this book touched on several subjects that was probably very difficult to lay bare to the ignorant public. Rena Grande and her 2 siblings are the focus of this coming-of-age memoir and follows their journey as a "family' from Mexico, into the USA as illegal immigrants and finally becoming full rounded citizens in more sense than just one.
Both their parents as well as their stepmom and paternal grandmo I think the issue of illegal immigration has always and will always stay a contentious issue and this book touched on several subjects that was probably very difficult to lay bare to the ignorant public. Both their parents as well as their stepmom and paternal grandmother took turns inflicting emotional damage on the three but at times the parents also showed a glimmer of compassion and care for their offspring.
However, I think the problems in this family's dynamics had more to do with parental neglect than the fact that they were separated from their children for long stretches of time. I found it particularly poignant when Rena just started attending school in the USA struggling to make herself understood in a language her tongue and mind seemed to resist.
The feeling of being an outsider not only in the US but also in Mexico was a very difficult bridge to cross and even more so when you are I really enjoyed the audio narration as the Mexican words and pronunciations made me feel more involved than if I had I read this. I still think this was a good story but I could not help comparing this to A Man of Good Hope and found the latter a stronger story of resilience and survival. Feb 17, Christine rated it it was ok Shelves: This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers.
To view it, click here. While the author conveyed the pain and difficulty of a broken family separated by a border, this is the story of immigration. The selfishness of her parents was pretty amazing, and the disappointment that life in America was not all it was hyped up to be is a reality faced by generations of people immigrating here.
My biggest issues: if I read one more time "all I wanted was my family to be together" I think I would have thrown my kindle against the wall!! We got it, thanks. The bigges 2. Finally, what was the resolution?? I was looking for resolution with some issues such as: Does she send money and support her family in Mexico? Has she helped any of them legally immigrate to America? I read she teaches ESL and other outreach programs, but what does she do for her family still in Mexico? Interesting read. Apr 06, Donna rated it really liked it Shelves: autobiography-memoir , non-fiction.
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It was well written, funny, poignant and a little sad. And plus, it is nonfiction. It was about a girl left behind with her siblings while her parents tried to make a better living in the U. The money the parents sent home so the grandmother could take care of them, was spent not on them, but on the favored grandchild, also living with the grandparents.
This was a great coming of age story of a little Mexican girl who finally made it to America, only to find out I thoroughly enjoyed this book. This was a great coming of age story of a little Mexican girl who finally made it to America, only to find out that life was still hard. View all 3 comments. I absolutely loved this book, I seriously read it in one sitting. It was amazing and recommend it to everyone :. Jul 27, Book Concierge rated it it was amazing Shelves: autobiography , memoir , abuse , family , book-club , coming-of-age , latino-literature , mexico , nonfiction , social-commentary.
Economic recession made it impossible for him to provide for his family in Mexico, but the money he could earn in California would help support them. She promised to return in a year, but the year became several, and the children were taunted and considered orphans by everyone in town. They were plagued with lice and roundworms, and forced to go to school with no lunch and no money to buy anything from the vendors that surrounded the schoolyard at noon. Eventually they joined their father in California, but their dreams of a loving father quickly faded in the reality of living with a violent alcoholic.
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This is a heartbreaking and heartwarming memoir of a childhood living in want, both in Mexico and in the United States. Grande writes with courage about the abject poverty of her early years, the sense of abandonment she and her siblings felt when their parents left, and how feeling abandoned affected their futures. She is brutally honest about the hardships she faced and the disintegration of her family. I was appalled and distressed reading about this level of poverty. She and her family did eventually get green cards, and she is a naturalized U. I was angry with her parents for the way they treated their children.
How could these two people, who professed to love their children, ignore, berate, punish, dismiss, and discount them? More puzzling to me is how their children could forgive their parents these failings. Because Grande does forgive and also gives credit to her father for instilling in her the dream of success that saw her through all the difficulties. She also gives credit to the teachers, especially Diana Savas, who recognized her gift and encouraged her to pursue her dreams. Ultimately this is an inspiring story of courage and perseverance.
I was in tears at the end of this poignant and honest memoir. Mar 03, Caren rated it really liked it Shelves: adult-nonfiction. When I thought of illegal immigrants, I hadn't really considered what they had left behind. This book highlights those children left back home for years at a time as their parents journey, at great risk, to "El Otro Lado" to try to better life for themselves and their children.
A young child, though, can't really understand why his parents have abandoned him. This is a heart-breaking book, not only in its piercing portrayal of how it feels to be that child left back home, but also in its depicti When I thought of illegal immigrants, I hadn't really considered what they had left behind.
This is a heart-breaking book, not only in its piercing portrayal of how it feels to be that child left back home, but also in its depiction of the stark poverty that drove the parents to such a decision. The author and her siblings are left with their stern paternal grandmother first, and then later with their sweet, but crushingly poor, maternal grandmother. They are reduced to bathing in a dirty canal and to living in a hut with dirt floors, lice, and no running water.
The desperation of their mother, who has followed their father to the USA, only to return with their littlest sister when their father leaves her for another woman, is palpable. These are people with no prospects, living at the edge of endurance. Finally, the author's father returns for his children, but the author faces a difficult life with her abusive father and her stepmother in a one-bedroom apartment where the three siblings share the living room as their bedroom in Los Angeles.
This is an eye-opening book. I have great admiration for the author, who overcame so much to succeed. She has written a stirring, thought-provoking memoir. The Distance Between Us, is a memoir of a truly hard-knock childhood, and of a very sad, albeit probably all too common, family dynamic. Recommendation: Highly recommended, especially to younger readers.
Washington Square Press. Kindle Edition, pages. Aug 28, Trisha rated it really liked it. I wonder whether the people I know who complain the loudest about illegal immigration would change their views after reading this memoir about the human side of what it involves. And I wonder whether the people who make such disparaging and often hateful remarks about illegal immigrants would feel the same after reading about the desperate courage that motivates people to face the dangers involved in crossing the border to escape the poverty of their lives and seek a decent life for their childr I wonder whether the people I know who complain the loudest about illegal immigration would change their views after reading this memoir about the human side of what it involves.
And I wonder whether the people who make such disparaging and often hateful remarks about illegal immigrants would feel the same after reading about the desperate courage that motivates people to face the dangers involved in crossing the border to escape the poverty of their lives and seek a decent life for their children. Despite being abandoned by her mother again and again, and enduring an abusive relationship with an alcoholic father, she could never bring herself to give up entirely on either of them.
Beautifully written memoir from Reyna Grande. I had never read anything by a Mexican author and I am glad our book club chose this fantastic book. It's a very easy read and very interesting. Once I started I couldn't put it down. The author took me with her in this story of the hardships and heartbreaks of the little girl Reyna and her siblings so they would have their own home and a good life.
I don't have the right word to describe this book but it's a beautiful read. It makes you believe that Beautifully written memoir from Reyna Grande. It makes you believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Dec 08, Sarah rated it really liked it. Super inspiring and sobering. Having lived in Mexico for several years I felt a fair amount of guilt for my obliviousness. She poses a great question that I'm not even sure I could answer for myself. I should note I read an edition designed for young readers.
Not sure how they differ. Just came across it in my library browsing. Glad I did. I thought I had lived a portion of my childhood in poverty, but when I read this wonderfully written memoir, I saw that poverty in the US cannot be compared to poverty in Mexico! This true story reflects Reyna Grande's struggle with abandonment, "for the greater good," dysfunctional parents, and her deep love for both of her homes, the first in Mexico, and then her new home in the United States where, thanks to the Reagan amnesty program, she embraced citizenship and opportunity. This child, the I thought I had lived a portion of my childhood in poverty, but when I read this wonderfully written memoir, I saw that poverty in the US cannot be compared to poverty in Mexico!
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This child, then woman, writes with love for some who would be unlovable for most of us and with a positive view of what would seem ugly and unbearable to most. I love her though I'll probably never have the privilege to meet her. Reyna punctuates portions of her English with it, and mostly explains each Spanish word as she goes.
I loved this book and would recommend it to fiction and non-fiction lovers alike. Apr 18, Lindsey rated it really liked it. A heartbreaking tale about a Mexican family and their journey to the United States. Mar 05, Elizabeth Preslar rated it really liked it Shelves: , non-fiction , biography , audio. From malnourished and lice-infested in Mexico to "illegal" ESL kids and American teens dealing with domestic abuse and alcoholism, Reyna, her brother and sister are constantly looking out for one another.
There is triumph and there is heartbreak. I loved the view readers are given of the sibli 4. I loved the view readers are given of the sibling relationships. Reyna also has a bond with a teacher in her life which proves to ultimately determine her future. A good read and an important story. It will make you think a little harder about the lines we are so quick to draw in the sand. Sep 03, Iraina Valencia rated it it was amazing Shelves: to-read. I truly enjoyed this book, it not only resonated with the work I do, but I felt at many times a personal connection to her story.
It did not feel like a memoir but a story of triumph and strength in overcoming so many barriers. Mar 26, Missy J rated it liked it Shelves: latin-american , books , non-fiction , biography , usa-related. The writing style wasn't challenging, but the subject matter - immigration and family separation - was difficult to swallow. It's a very sad true story. The author Reyna Grande tells us the story of her childhood. She was born in a small Mexican town called Iguala as the third child. Soon after her birth, her father went to El Otro Lado the other place aka USA to find work in order to better provide for his family and save money to build a house in Mexico.
Soon after that, the mother leaves fo The writing style wasn't challenging, but the subject matter - immigration and family separation - was difficult to swallow. Soon after that, the mother leaves for America as well to join the father. The children feel like orphans and suffer abuse at the hands of their paternal grandmother. The parents have a baby in America, which means the author's little sister is automatically American. The mother comes back because the father is seeing another woman.
The children suffer in poverty with a single mother who leaves them again to be with her new lover. The father suddenly comes back with the intention to take one of the child back. To the dismay of his new wife, the father brings back three children. Life in America isn't easy at first due to the language barrier. Etc etc I felt so sad about the children being abandoned by their parents and how they never managed to heal the wounds inflicted on them.
Hurt people hurt people. Then there was this obsession of consuming which I guess is part of the American dream. The family members were cruel to each other, which was terrible. Only Reyna managed to finish college.